Odd Reaction To Great News

[McFrenzy]

This one might be one for the girls more than guys unless the guys have been there.

My wife and I have been trying for a baby for the last few months although I have been practising for years :)

Tonight we decided to go and get a pregnancy test kit from Tesco (Not the most romantic of places) as she was late (someone else can explain to those who don't understand :D)

Oddly enough we both felt like a couple of scallys buying one as it was all new and exciting, we got home and without describing too much we got a result.

We got a pink line where we should have one which means wahey I am gonna be a dad, my wife who is the planner and brains behind the outfit went very quiet, and now she is asleep having gone to bed and asked to be alone, I heard her crying for a bit until she fell asleep, my offers to console her were rejected and I said I would give her some space.

We have been talking about this for a couple of years since we got married and had held off until the time was right which seems to be never so she said lets go for it, now I am worried, is this a usual reaction?

[argh]

Of course it's normal, if not usual. As much as you want it, it's still a big shock that now, it's actually going to happen. You're going to have a child. It's going to mean changes, and changes can be scary. Hopefully, she'll feel better about it soon.

[cybex]

Concratualtions! If you call it cybex, i'll give you rep points!

[Angel@heart]

I wouldn't be too worried. I'm sure she's just very overwhelmed. i bloody would be. It's a big step and it takes a lot to come to terms with even if you want it more than anything else in the world.

By the way, congratulations

[McFrenzy]

I got back fromt he gym a few mins ago and got a call from my wife, she is exstatic, just needed a bit o time for it to sink in, so cheers guys :)

[Angel@heart]

Im really happy for you, congrats and best of luck *huggles*

[drunk_monk]

Congratulations, i'd say this is normal, she is just overly happy that she is going to have a baby.

[Paradigm^]

Yeah, didn't you know?

When women are happy, they cry. When women are sad, they cry. Go figure :p

Congrats!

[Chassisbot]

Teh big THUMBSUP!

[Liz]

yes, speaking from experience, it such a shocking revalation! even if it has been suspected for a while. she was probably very overwhealmed. There are so many thoughts that fly through your head when you find out your pregnant that its hard to deal with them all.

I was just a blank for about two days. i didnt know if i was happy or terrified, and in the end i just accepted that i was both and tried not to worry.

The stress of trying for a baby too is so huge that the reality of seeing a positive test just was too big to take.

But in the end, being pregnant is the most exciting thing in the world, especially with the first! Make sure she enjoys it, which im sure you will!

I hope everything goes really well for you and congrats. Having a baby is hard work, but i'm a single parent so i guess i'll always say that!

Let us know how she gets on!

[RobW]

Congratumalationisings to both of you :D

[Thomp]

Congratulations... not trying to worry you but it will sink in for you soon too! :p

[Angel@heart]

Yeah, didn't you know?

When women are happy, they cry. When women are sad, they cry. Go figure :p

Congrats!
Very very true. I guess we're just speshul

[McFrenzy]

Cheers guys she was excited when she got home from work today, plus I had bought her three huge bunches of flowers, result was bursting into tears so I guess everything is cool :)

[Al]

OMGWTFBAYBEYFTW!!!1

Another expectant vahzhah. Get a ticker like Nico

Oh yeah, contragamulashunz. :)

[Nicodemus]

Congratulations! I'm in the same boat you are. Well, as in we are expecting.

Guys, I wouldn't call this "usual" or "expected." It isn't. If it was, he wouldn't have posted asking about it. It rang odd to him for a reason, and he knows his wife much better than we do. My wife and I were both elated, hugging and laughing and crying together. Finding out that we had successfully created a whole new life brought us closer than we'd ever been. You couldn't separate us. With us, she wanted a baby, and I wasn't sure I was ready. I am now, after our first pregnancy (miscarriage), and now that we're pregnant again, it's the same thing all over again.

That all being said, you two are obviously completely different people than my wife and I. While I wouldn't call her reaction "normal," or "expected," I wouldn't say that it's bad, either. She may just be in complete shock and not know how to handle it. She may be scared to death. She might feel as if she's bitten off more than she can chew. Or, she simply may be so lost in thought about what's coming that she can't interact with you just yet.

My advice would be that when she lets you talk to her, reassure her that you are in this together. Tell her that you're not going anywhere, even if she knows this already. If she's scared, she'll need to hear this from you. She needs to know that you share her trepidation, and you want her to share your joy. Life doesn't wait until we are ready, we are ready when life happens. If getting pregnant has taught us anything, it's that. Remind her that you love her, and that she is carrying your child, and that means that you have each given the other something wholly unique. That child growing insider her is the product of your love for each other. It's a brand new life that didn't exist before. What could possibly be greater than creating that together? A couple that's in a healthy relationship and has a baby shares a bond that couples without children just can't have. It's an amazing and wonderful thing, and you'll handle it... together.

You've done the right thing up to this point. If she asked for space, the best thing you could have done is give it to her, which you did. Just be nearby, so when she's ready to talk, you'll be there.

And don't forget, she is pregnant, so erratic, out-of-character behavior (yes, I'm American) is sort of par for the course. Get used to it. :)

I hope some of that helped. Again, congratulations.

[McFrenzy]

You were spot on Nicodemus she was worried and scared , it is afterall something completely new to her as she only has one other sibling and her brother has no kids, me on the other hand well I sit as number 9 of 13 so my older siblings all have kids so I grew up around nappies and crying babies.

After she chatted to her Mum (Mums always fix things) she felt better, throughout the evening she has chatted to my sisters who made her feel like she won't be alone through it.

I am currently my wifes hero for been solid throughout so thats cool, for me I am more worried about what to name it than anything else, nappies are a sinch and all the rest I have done for my nephews and nieces.

Now she seems a lot better but for a time I was worried about her :(

Congrats to you too Nicodemus I hope things go well for you ;)
My sister had three miscarriages now she has five kids (bloody Irish genes :D )

[Nicodemus]

Well, I'm glad things seem better now.

Just a bit of advice from father-to-be to father-to-be: make her let you feed the baby! Daddies need to bond, too, and we actually need more time because mommy has a 9-month head start on us.

Proud fathers unite! :D

[Angel@heart]

*Round of applause* I give the best of luck to both of you. I hope everything goes well and you both are happy, as well as your partners

[Jelibeli]

Yay!!

I saw my mate's daughter for the first time in months yesterday, and she is so cute!! I'm not going to tell my other half, mainly 'cause money & house aren't nearly up to coping with a baby, but I would love one, and I am both happy and jealous in equal and immense amounts. Well done!

Teh big THUMBSUP!
No, that's what they had to STOP doing in order to get the baby. Oh well, I suppose someone has to explain it sooner or later. Right, little 'bot. When a man and a woman love each other very much...