Cure For A Broken Heart

[SquallLeonheart]

I have recently been in a 5 month relationship that has ended over the last two weeks, I did not decide to end this relationship and have been having dificulty coping with my emotions. could anyone give some sound advice as to what to do to get through this time as i have been trying to stay friends with my ex and I have been getting upset after ebing around her because I think she is a bit cold towards me alot of the time and it seems like I was never loved by her.

Thanks Squall
:nana:

[Mat^]

Normally my pre-meditated advice comes in two song lyrics

"How could this happen to me? I've made my mistakes, Got no where to run, The night goes on as I'm fading away I'm sick of this life I just wanna scream, how could this happen to me?"

and

"CRAAAWLING IN MY SKIIIIIIN, THESE WOOOOOUNDS THEY WILL NOT HEEEEAAAAAL"

But I'm working on being nice, so just try and do things to take your mind off it, go hang out with some mates, go out on the pull.

(Advertising your romantic problems on these forums is usually "NO" btw, we'll make fun of you)

[Stringy Pete]

Go out with your mates in a bid to forget about it all. Surrounding yourself with your mates and forgetting about it will help you get over it quickly. You've still got your whole life ahead of you, and you will find someone who makes you happier, you might not see it now, but it will happen.

And don't listen to 'Dry your eyes' by The Streets.

[SquallLeonheart]

lol i cant stand that song anyway it aint my kinda thing and as for my mates we are both friends with them and at the mo they are at home for easter and i am still at uni for another week cos of work

[Paul12345]

I do the stereotypical thing a man should do, drink yourself into a stupor.
Actually I normally do that without the need of a painful break up but all the same despite the fact that it is bad for your health I really do find it helps though I am sure many will advise against it.

[Smokey]

Fish, sea etc...

Seriously though the other guys are right. Hang out with mates to take your mind off of it. Besides chances are you've neglected them slightly over the last 5 months and need to make it up to them.

Go out, have a laugh and if you're lucky a bird might throw you a charity fuck.

Chin up.

[SquallLeonheart]

Go out, have a laugh and if you're lucky a bird might throw you a charity fuck.

Chin up.

lmao once i have done this c++ assignment that is definately on the card cheers for cheering me up a little.

[Dr S]

(Advertising your romantic problems on these forums is usually "NO" btw, we'll make fun of you)

no we won't thats mean

but as you know my advice sucks

[queenofself]

you cant go far wrong with sexings & alcohol as a quick fix.

as for the friends thing, me & my ex share most of the same group of friends when im back home & although the first few times you all go out together might be tricky it gets easy pretty fast.

[Zweee]

Yeah worst thing to do is to try and be best friends with your ex after a breakup. Im not sayingshut her out completly if you want to remain friends, but take it slow. I broke up with my ex a couple years back, didnt really tlk to her for 6 months. Then on a few nights out we had a chat, and are now reasonably good friends. Just give it time, only thing that will heal it.

[steffie]

And don't listen to 'Dry your eyes' by The Streets.that piece of advice will serve you well in all areas of your life

[Roxsie]

Talk to your mates, especially the female ones, they can help.

[Splush]

And don't listen to 'Dry your eyes' by The Streets.I reckon that album is a great positive getting-over-a-girl-and-a-betrayal album, although you might be right about that song on its own.

[Erskien_Parkour]

Well... im gonna say different.

I have a habit of listning to depressing songs when im depressed. And... it gets all the emotion out, for me though.

But music and friends are the best help. Just try to forget about it all... try not to dwell on the past dude.

[Darkscull]

become emo and slit your wrists!
only joking only joking, put the razorblade down.

anyway, joking aside...

i would say listen to some emotionally charged, sometimes depressing music, (SOAD are good for that, but there's some from every genre) and sit there feeling sorry for yourself. pick at your broken heart, embrace your pain and pull it into yourself, you will overcome it but it will have become part of you and you will be reborn as a new, complete self. ready to take on anything. (the reason you can take on anything might be that you don't care anymore, but that's just a side effect)
hurts like hell but it works.

that may well not be good advice, but it's one solution out of many

[Fish Finger]

Well... im gonna say different.

I have a habit of listning to depressing songs when im depressed. And... it gets all the emotion out, for me though.

Same here - except about an hour later, when I'm feeling a bit better, I would put on a song I can dance around to. That makes me feel happy. When I'm silly, It just makes me happy.

[Damian]

Time is the cure. Always. And every time nobody ever believes it AT the time.

[AngelicDemon]

depressing music is good, but i love it when i'm depressed, I'm usually happy but being a giant emo gives me the freedom to do nothing, NOTHING!

[captain canuck]

hmmm. you know what i do when i get dumped?

wake up - and realize i was never attached in the first place.

now THAT's how you do "emo".

...

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[MargateMan]

pft, n'ah, best way it to drink your self till your paralytic! Then get up the next morning, hang over and all, and play football! And destroy all records of that person having existed in your life! :rolleyes: What? I'm not strange...

[Tiode]

SYFUHM

Alternatively, just go and cry till it stops.
Then burn the photos.

Hope i helped.

[da-geezer]

MargateMan's got a point; as Queenofself said earlier, getting ridiculously hammered and waking up with a stinker lightens the mood, shows you there's still other girls out there, and certainly takes yer mind off things. It's not for everyone though, those of a fragile disposition tend to freak out more after that.

If I were in your shoes, I'd pick up the phone and call a mate who's always got your back, and go for a few bevvies in the local.

Winner.

[MargateMan]

... Just don't get really drunk then get of with your best friend's g/f in front of them... That doesn't help anything...

[Katie_D]

that piece of advice will serve you well in all areas of your life

Very harsh. The Streets aren't that bad.

Having only being heartbroken a handful of times in my short little life, the only advice I can offer is the course of action I took that has already been suggested many a time.

Look at the facts, if you and her were that perfect together, then you wouldn't have broken up the first place. Now you are single, despite the fact that you might not want to go out and meet others, you still can. There are billions of people in this world, and the chances of them being a better match with you than your ex are very high.

There are times when you will miss her, and when all you'll want to do is just see her again. This will probably change after a few months of not living in her pocket. Time is a great healer and eventually you will get over her.

I do not recommend trying to stay friends with her. If you still get on then fair enough, go for it. However, if you're blatantly trying to get on with her and forcing your friendship upon her, I'd give it a rest. A lot of people don't want to be friends with their exes because it's hard to change the relationship from a romantic one, to just a plutonic one. You'll only look like an idiot trying to hold on, if she doesn't want it.

Going out with friends is a great way to get over a break up as well. However, try not to rely on them too much and become overly attached to them, as a substitute for your ex. It sounds odd, but this can easily happen and you end up annoying them by being round them all the time (people have done this to me).

Good luck. :)

[Ozzylator]

It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

Because you're socially incompetent.

Like me.

:nana:

Ah well, there's always the internet.

[AngelicDemon]

wise words from Katie D... I find hanging around cheerfull, upbeat people helps cheer you up after a bad let down

[steffie]

Very harsh. The Streets aren't that bad.
that song, however, is.

i will not bore you with any relationship advice as i am completely incapable of holding down a stable relationship, because i am a commitment-phobe.

instead, i will advise you, like everyone else has, to surround yourself with supportive friends and concentrate on enjoying yourself. don't even think of looking for someone else, just take your time and have some fun.

[Beef Magic]

Cure for a Broken Heart. Bonjela.

But seriously, don't act as if you're the only person in the world to be dumped.

[captain canuck]

Ah well, there's always the internet. Apart from technical difficulties of course :p