Weirdness of my BF

[firefairy]

The bf has suddenly starting being really weird...

But in an emotional kind of way.

We were on the phone the other night and he said " I really do love you, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you"

Also in txts and things he's been telling me how he can't wait to be able to wake up next to me every morning...

I'm starting to get scared, lol he's not usually like this and then people keep joking about when he's going to propose!!!

[mat-tracteur561]

maybe hes trying to find somthing out and waiting for you to say the right anser

[Lawrence]

he's probably going to tell you he's become a scientologist.

[Gabber-Baby]

There are 2 reasons why blokes act like that:

1) They're feeling really guilty about something and they over-do it on the "I love you so much" speech.

OR

2) They generally mean it. They've finally realised how strong their feelings are and they just won't shut up about it.

I think you should do some snooping around, try and get some answers out of him. If you honestly don't think he's up to anything then just enjoy the romance :D

[Niamhel]

I agree with Gabber.

Guilt really makes the 'I love yous' fly.

not trying to make you paranoid, he could have been talking about you to someone and realised how much he loves you when he said it out loud.

[Charming]

I'm with Gabber here. BEWARE. My crappy, lying whore of a (somehow still current) boyfin went on like that for a while and finally had the good grace to confess last week that he's been messing around with quite a few other girls on the internets. I wouldn't have minded if it was just crappy porn but these are actually people that, in some cases, we BOTH talk to. I don't blame the girls much because he didn't actually bother to tell them that he was already with me, thus making our entire relationship something of a sham.

He even actually asked one of these girls to come down to his on a weekend that I wouldn't be there for casual sex (chickened out at the last minute though) :( I don't like him very much at all at the moment, let alone love him.

I'm not saying be a complete harpy and accuse him/ snoop around his personal stuff, I'm just saying be careful. But jah, otherwise you might as well enjoy it :)

[piemastermike]

sounds like he has just got to the "point" where he feels comfortable telling you all this kind of stuff. Guys find it hard to tell you their feelings due to being brought up being told to be manly men and don't cry and kittens are disposable.

[Felix Barry]

Gabber is right, and I'm speaking as a bloke here. However, she forgot to mention that men will also pour on the mushy talk if they're looking for something or that they could be a head-case...

So remember the possibilities are 4:

1) He's done something he shouldn't and hopes the mushy talk will throw you off the scent.
2) He genuinely feels this way and wants you and everyone to know.
3) He wants something. It's most likely to do with sex, but it could also be that he wants you to get him something.
4) He's a head-case.

By the way, like piemastermike said, number 2 is very possible, for the pure reason that he's probably plucked up the courage to say it...

[Smowy]

He could be feeling really happy, and wants to express it to you. Or you could be suspicious as others say but if there are no clues i on't see why you should be. You could probably just ask him anyway, if you really need to know.

[Smartie]

I always feel a bit sad when someone has to question voluntary displays of affection and emotions.

Don't allow yourself to be worried it's anything other than exactly what it is, or you'll eat yourself alive with worry, most of which is likely to be unfounded. Just try to enjoy what the world offers you, life's too short.

[malcolio]

Maybe make the most of this while you can, if your boyfriend finds out that you and your friends have been laughing about his affection for you he'll probably hide away back in his manly shell again. Even if he doesn't mind the jokes it won't exactly encourage him to show how much he likes you!

[gembird]

Firefairy, you've never really said anything (that I can remember) on here about your boyfriend being a poo, so it sounds like maybe he genuinely means it. If you guys have been together for a while and you're doing pretty well then the likelyhood is that he really feels that way. You can always ask him what he's after in a jokey way to see his reaction, the soppy sod.

Basically if he's never given you any reason to doubt him I wouldn't worry.

[albie_123]

sounds like you're a dick

[Midget]

haha your boyfriendf loves willies in his bum!!

[DrMcMoist]

Well if you're bored of all that sentimental crap you could always go with me.

I make a pledge at the start of every relationship never to feel anything even remotely "real" or "meaningful"

Every minute with me is a torturous chore as you try and get me to communicate and emote. Hehe, I won't though. I really won't. And I never will.

In the end it will all go tragically wrong when just as you think we've turned a corner I go off and sleep with your sister. If you don't have a sister just replace this with another person of equal or greater significance.

[Snoon]

Well if you're bored of all that sentimental crap you could always go with me.

I make a pledge at the start of every relationship never to feel anything even remotely "real" or "meaningful"

Every minute with me is a torturous chore as you try and get me to communicate and emote. Hehe, I won't though. I really won't. And I never will.

In the end it will all go tragically wrong when just as you think we've turned a corner I go off and sleep with your sister. If you don't have a sister just replace this with another person of equal or greater significance.

where do we sign up?

[DrMcMoist]

No signing necessary. Just bring eight cans of Strongbow and 20 pack of Club to my house and you're in. Officially my "girlfriend"

[White Tiger]

That kid is cool.

Also I think he has really realized how he feels about you. Maybe he misses you as well and just wants you to know he loves you.

Just give him a big long hard penis hug when you next see him. :)

[by crikey!]

i'd go with felix barry on this. hes done something bad, he means it, he wants something or hes nuts. being a cynic, i say hes a nutter who wants something after doing something bad.

[BlueIncaPilot]

Awww that's really nice. I'm not going to be cynical about it because my bf says the waking up thing and stuff like that all the time. It is you and no one else who will be able to tell if he has either moved up in his feelings, or doing the dirty.

[Hydralisk]

No signing necessary. Just bring eight cans of Strongbow and 20 pack of Club to my house and you're in. Officially my "girlfriend"
Urgh, get some proper fucking booze, seriously.

Also, Firefairy, don't worry about it too much, given that it is summer, the time of general happiness and sunshine, I'm sure he's just fine and dandy. Do keep your ears peeled for any suspect rumours floating about, but otherwise enjoy it.

[firefairy]

Yeah, I'm not worried about it, as I know he's not doing the dirty. I just find it strange/funny to be honest. We've been together for just over 2.5 yrs, I have a feeling it might be something to do with the fact I'm leaving to go to uni in oct, so maybe he wants to get it off his chest before I go..

I don't mind it, its just unusual for him to be quite so soppy!!!

[Roachy]

1) He's done something he shouldn't and hopes the mushy talk will throw you off the scent.
2) He genuinely feels this way and wants you and everyone to know.
3) He wants something. It's most likely to do with sex, but it could also be that he wants you to get him something.
4) He's a head-case.

No offense guys, but this is total bollocks. We're not robots off a frigging production line.

Everybody is different and has different mind sets from time to time. Just because he's doing it doesn't mean there's a set reason for it.

It could be anything. If you want to find out whether there's a specific reason just ask him nicely. He's your boyfriend and you should be comfortable enough to talk to him about things or at least comfortable enough to try and have a talk with him.

[Timmeh]

He's quite possibly scared that your relationship won't last you going away.

[Mat^]

gay

lord

[Roachy]

Are you uncomfortable with your sexuality or what, mat^?

[firefairy]

Well if you're bored of all that sentimental crap you could always go with me.

I make a pledge at the start of every relationship never to feel anything even remotely "real" or "meaningful"

Every minute with me is a torturous chore as you try and get me to communicate and emote. Hehe, I won't though. I really won't. And I never will.

In the end it will all go tragically wrong when just as you think we've turned a corner I go off and sleep with your sister. If you don't have a sister just replace this with another person of equal or greater significance.

and I *do* have a sister... but your welcome to sleep with her :p

[bionic sheep]

fuck whatever this thread is about, all i need to know is that firefairy has practically asked us to bone her sister

livin the dream

[Roachy]

quote this if you've got a semi
...

[Bewildebeast]

There must be a catch

What's the catch

[Norbington]

He's pregnant.

[Smokey]

You could be really unorthodox and ask him about it although this isn't anywhere near as much fun as speculation and conspiracy theories.

[captain canuck]

I always feel a bit sad when someone has to question voluntary displays of affection and emotions. Me too, but that might be because the voluntary displays of affection and emotions tend not to fly in my direction...

I'm sticking with the optimistic explanation, if it weren't obvious.

[Roachy]

I always feel a bit sad when someone has to question voluntary displays of affection and emotions.

As do I...

[firefairy]

lol well I now know he's not pregnant :-D I asked.

He's just being mushy for the reason he's feeling mushy :)

I also told him about some of the things people said on here and he found them very funny.

[HoverCrab]

Maybe he's done something really bad - fucked up big time, and is being all sensitive and caring to overcompensate for it.

[Chinchilla]

I think it is a good thing! More smooching and tenderness is required!

Be happy that you have someone in your life who cares for and loves you. Enjoy it while you have it and try your best to keep it!

[Mr stabby]

i think he should break up with you for questioning him

[gembird]

Some guys are just nice. I'd only be suspicious if he changes the way he acts in front of your friends, like he's trying to prove himself or show how good a boyfriend he is. Otherwise he's obviously just a decent bloke who wants you to know how much he cares- a guy who feels the need to be like that all the time, especially in public, is probably trying to compensate for something :p

[Mr.Flibble]

I thought relationship threads went into the cheesebin? If you don't like it, just tell him to stop! Or propose to him first. That'll get him.

[firefairy]

i think he should break up with you for questioning him

thats a little harsh.

It wasn't questioning per say, just general wondering as its a little unusual for him to be quite so mushy, he has done it before, but usually I say something soppy first.

But all is solved and I'm very happy now :)

(although I am slightly aghast at how so many people came up with "he must have done something bad"!!!)

[Roxsie]

Woo!

Enjoy it firefairy, this is one of the best bits of a relationship. If he wants to be mushy then you're lucky :D

[Lucage]

He's quite possibly scared that your relationship won't last you going away.

That was my thought as well.

[Roachy]

(although I am slightly aghast at how so many people came up with "he must have done something bad"!!!)

That's because these people lie to their partners when they do bad things. :D